Your Support System Is Like a Garden

On the road toward our goals—especially during the lonelier stretches, the ones that feel like spiritual wilderness—a strong support system can make all the difference.

During setbacks and bad days, when doubt creeps in, one thing that has consistently helped me is intentionally nurturing a network of support.

For me, that includes close friends, mentors, mentees, coaches, therapists, healthcare providers, family and chosen family—people who see me not just for who I am, but for who I’m becoming.

They lift me up.

They listen.

They offer honest feedback with kindness when I need it.

They celebrate my wins and hold steady space when I struggle. My growth doesn’t threaten them because they’re committed to their own paths, passions, and values.

They show up—even when life gets busy. They reach out. They make an effort to understand me, to be patient, and to give me the benefit of the doubt.

When things get difficult, they lean in rather than pull away. They understand that real relationships require care, repair, and reciprocity. They know how to receive and take responsibility—and they understand that a healthy connection is a balance of giving and taking.

When you find people like this, tend to those relationships like a garden. The more intention and care you bring, the more nourishment you receive in return.

Because who we surround ourselves with matters—not just for our dreams, but for how we move through the world.

If you’re finding yourself craving stronger, more aligned support in your life, this is something I help people explore in my work. I’m a life coach based in Vancouver, and I support clients in reflecting on, strengthening, and reshaping their support systems as they grow.